WALKING THROUGH THE FEAR TO FIND LOVE

"If all your life you‘ve been your own worst enemy, then when will you allow yourself to become your own best friend…. "


I woke up this morning only to find that I would be in a conversation about the expression of love. In my last relationship I stayed because I wanted him to understand that he was loveable, and when I finally walked away, after he cheated, I learned that I was the one being taught how to love. Love can be very scary and you can find yourself in a place of fear battling whether the past or the future has the rights to your heart.

Today, I spoke with a very good friend and we talked about the fear of allowing oneself to love. When it comes to love I do have my own fears, but I try to know that there is nothing to fear but fear itself. I believe that what I put out into the Universe is what I will get back. I know that I can’t control anyone else and if the person I love chooses to cheat it has nothing to do with who I am. I learned awhile ago that life is too short to worry about what other people do because you can’t control them. I live my life from a place of love, so I expect that I will attract to me the person I am.

For some people this is all fluff and it can’t be this simple. As my friend says, “I’m guarding my heart and protecting me, what if I let my guard down and they hurt me anyway?” Well, my response is, “what if they never hurt you?” I am not about to live in a place of fear awaiting the day that someone does to me what I “think” they may do, because what if they never do what I “think.” Life is much too short to live in a place of projected negativity when I could spend the same time in a place of being positive, experiencing love, and accepting the person I have before me. So, I pose the question, “what if all your life you’ve been your own worst enemy, then when will you allow yourself to become your own best friend?”

If all you know is hurt, then wouldn’t it be wonderful to experience pleasure for the very first time? This requires that you do something different that will produce a much needed and very different result like changing your thoughts. I know that this may not be that simple, because if it were you would have done it prior to now. However, what better time to do something different and get a better result than now.

It’s time that you walk through your fears and allow yourself to experience the best thing that could ever happened to you. Yes, there is a chance that you may meet another looser, but what if you met a wonderful loving human being who truly wants to love you. I don’t know, I’m willing to take the chance to meet the person I have always dreamed of meeting, verses staying in the same place expecting the same results. When walking through your fears you must willing to change your thoughts and readjust your actions because when you do the same things and expect a different result it is considered “insanity.” Fears have a way of leaving you bound to a place that is dark and bleak, but you don’t have to stay there. You can get up and start over with a new outlook on life. You have the option to reevaluate your thoughts and see life through a new lens if you so choose. So, what would you be willing to do to experience true love if you knew that it really exists?